What do you do if you are truly a creature of circumstance? How do you not let things spiral out of control? How do you respond when they do regardless?
At what point do you assume responsibility?
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When people experience a loss of control because of a stressor, they are motivated to try to reestablish control in the stressful situation. Failing this, they often attempt to increase their sense of control in other areas of their lives(sometimes this results in attempts to control those around them). The irony of life is that despite one's desire to maintain control over events, we are unable to do so because we only have control over ourselves and nothing/no one else. To make any change in the world, ultimately we must change ourselves. Despite circumstances, we must take responsibility for who we are, what we have done and what has been done to us. If we do not take responsibility for our actions, addressing certain issues pertaining to our lives, a sense of honor is lost and problems are created. One has control over their own future, no one else is responsible for one except oneself.
Everyday brings suffering, but suffering is both a lesson and a blessing in disguise. When we suffer, we have a choice, we can let the event affect us in a negative manner or, we can assess the situation, remember the blessings in our lives, learn, and grow from the experience then move on.
I choose to live each day moment to moment, for the moments are the building blocks of a full life. I have experienced traumatic events(as you are well aware), as well as truly blessed events, these events have shaped who I am today but they do not haunt me. Because, as stated before, we have no control over anything in life except for ourselves, we cannot change the past, the future is indefinite, all we have is now. So appreciate now and make the most of it. I'm sorry for the long rant, I don't know if it will help, but I hope you get through this, whatever it may be.
Peace,
M
~Thich Nhat Hanh:
"Life can be found only in the present moment. The past is gone, the future is not yet here, and if we do not go back to ourselves in the present moment, we cannot be in touch with life."
I've been thinking of how to respond to this pretty much since you posted it. And so far, this is what I got:
It is frequently the things we don't do that matter more than the things we do. But either way it is still a choice that we make, and choices are always in the context of circumstances.
(p.s. I'm glad you liked the opera, isn't it better to have an opera that gets you thinking about things like this than one that's just fluffy and pretty?)
It's not about the situations we are in that matter, since there's nothing we can do about them now. It's how we choose to deal with them that counts.
Well, now that I have the full libretto, I'm sure I can pour over this in more specific detail. It is time, however, that you told us how your holidays were.
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